Are You Ready To Walk In Your Purpose?

Are You Ready To Walk In Your Purpose?
How prepared are you to walk in your purpose? Have you set out on your journey with only part of what you need? If so why?

You wouldn’t start a trip by throwing whatever you could find into a suitcase. What if you were going to the beach and packed ski clothes? Or the other way around? Went on a ski trip with bathing suits and flip flops? That last word…flop…is exactly what your trip would do.

Why start a journey of purpose with the wrong things packed. You would not travel that way on a physical trip, and you shouldn’t on your trip of purpose.

 
I can’t tell you everything you need because your purpose walk is different from mine. But we do need some of the same things.
 
First, we all need some sanity in our lives. Please don’t add to a life already filled with chaos by trying to change your direction all at once. Sit down first and get the reigns on the runaway wagon of chaos. Once you do this, you will be able to focus on your purpose walk and you will be able to better figure out the direction you need to go.  Even though I have been walking in my purpose for a while now, sometimes I have to stop, breathe regroup and start again. That is the nature of life. For what to do when that happens, take a look at my blog post, “When Life Throws You a Curve”.
 
Next, you need some type of organization in your life. You need a place for everything, you need a good calendar, and you need a system. Not your thing? Make it your thing. It can be digital, paper or both. Find what works for you…
 
And use it! Case in point. I have a nice white board in my office. It has a calendar, a couple of different places for notes, upcoming events, and a tick list. I filled it out all nice and neat at the beginning of the month, and I haven’t looked at it since. Guess what? My weekly email did not go out today. I may need a system to remind me to look at my reminders.
 
Another thing you need is a cheering section. You need a couple of people who will come along side you and tell you to keep going. They need to be honest though and point out where you can improve. I have 3 people I rely on all the time. They cheer me on, read my blog post, look at my graphics and tell me the truth. I might could do this without them, but it would be hard.
 
You also need to find time to rest.  A purpose walk, while rewarding and uplifting, can be tiring. You need to plan time every week to step aside and tend to yourself. Find what you can do to relax and do it.
 
I encourage you to start your Purpose Walk soon if you have not already. I also encourage you to make the right preparations for this upcoming journey. Make sure you have what you need to start. Your needs may change as you go along, but you can adjust as that happens.
 
So, what are you waiting for? Pack those bags and let’s go!


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What if Every Day Were New Year's Day?

What if Every Day Were New Year's Day?
Happy New Year! If you are like most people, you started your day with expectations of the upcoming year! Expectations of something better, possibly an easier year than last year. That’s great, but I have a challenge for each of us.
 
Today holds so much promise, as does the brand-new year! But what if we treated every day like New Year’s Day? Fresh…New…Exciting!! What if we wished each other a great year and blessings each day? What if we wrote down our goals and vowed to ourselves to make this day...the day we are in…no matter the date, the day of new beginnings, a day of re-birth for our dreams? A day so full of promise for the next 365 days it created excitement and joy?
 
What would happen…what if? Could it spur us to accomplish our goals, to act a little kinder, to love a little harder and to reach a little farther?
 
Here is the challenge! When you wake up tomorrow, greet the day with a hardy Happy New Year! Do everything you do tomorrow as if it’s a fresh beginning, a new start. Because it is.
 
I am not saying to start over on your projects, but to look at each project with fresh eyes , a renewed hope and conviction that yes you can complete it.
 
Let’s decide right now to treat each of our tomorrows like they are the first day of the new year. After all they are the first day of your next three hundred and sixty-five days! You get to decide how your year will go. You get to leave behind the last year each day!
 
Are you ready for your best year ever! Then start it each day you wake up. Do a little more than last year, do a little better than last year. I guarantee, when January first of the next year rolls around you will be so much farther towards you dreams than you think possible right now!



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Are You Waiting for the Perfect Time to Start?

Are You Waiting for the Perfect Time to Start?
When we start something new, like a diet, or working toward any new goal, we tend to wait until the time is perfect to start. I have good news for you! No more waiting, the perfect time is right now, today!!
 
There is nothing magical about waiting until a Monday, the first of the month or even January 1. There is no wand waving, or fairy dust that happens at midnight on any of those days. I promise, there isn’t.
 
Today is the day! And there is no better day than today to start whatever you have been waiting to start. Let me tell you what will happen if you wait.
 
First, you are losing valuable time you could be working towards that goal. A few days may not sound like much, but it can make all the difference in the world to your overall drive forward on accomplishment. Let’s say you set a goal to lose twenty pounds this next year. How would you feel if you started the year with a dent in that number? Would it feel so much better to be looking at fifteen pounds instead of twenty? I believe it would.
 
Second, delaying it tends to set us up for bad behaviors before the magic day to begins come around. Let’s look at that twenty-pound weight loss mentioned above. So today you have set the goal to lose twenty pounds in the new year and you are going to start on New Years Day. Most of our minds put us into a panic that we are not going to be able to eat anything we enjoy from that day forward or at least until we get to our goal weight. And even after the weight is gone, we will need to be careful, so we don’t gain it all back. So, what do we do? We eat everything we love, in excess leading up to New Years Day. The result is an extra couple of pounds to lose, so instead of twenty pounds we can now add another two to five pounds to our original goal.
 
Third, setting up a special day to start a goal, like losing weight can set us up for failure on the first day. Have you ever stated a diet on a Monday? Monday is traditionally a difficult day as it is. If you work out of the home, you know what I am talking about. And why start a diet on a holiday. Instead, start early and be prepared for snacking that day with good, healthy foods that will make you feel good about yourself and your choices.
 
You can apply the above to any goal you have. With that in mind I encourage you to start today, don’t wait for the perfect time. You are there right now, today is the perfect day, the perfect time.

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3 Tips on How to be Consistent

3 Tips on How to be Consistent
For me consistency was an issue for many reasons.

1. While I said certain things were important to my life, I was not showing that in how I handled them. Consistency was an issue and still can be at times. I can blame this on many things, but let’s be honest. I was lazy in my personal and business life. Getting up a little early to do something I said I “wanted” to do didn’t happen because I would rather get a little more sleep. After all, I went to bed late the night before and so now I needed that extra rest. So…why did I go to bed late? Maybe watching TV or doing something else otherwise unproductive.

- Remedy - Setting a bedtime and making myself adhere to it and then setting an alarm to get up at a set time every day (M-F). To make this successful, I had to look at what I wanted to accomplish and make it real. Getting into my own head and determining to do what I wanted I had to make big changes and a set time to sleep was one of those things. It was something I simply had to do. No magic tricks here. DO IT!



2. I took on too many things at once. This caused overwhelm, frustration at not getting anything completed and lack of focus, or misdirected focus.

- Remedy - This was a big thing with me. I wanted to do all the things I knew needed to be done all at once. ALL THE THINGS. I still struggle with this. My reasoning is I am 62, I need to accomplish so much NOW!!  That is a thought that must be taken captive, cast away and then replaced with a new thought, the truth, which is this…God gave me this purpose and He will see the fulfillment through when I do my part. This truth has caused me to take one thing at a time and finish it, then move on to the next. Doing this has calmed my spirit and brought a peace into my workspace that is refreshing. And the payoff is, more now than ever, I am accomplishing the things I need to accomplish…one at a time.


3. Not planning has also been an issue that has led to my lack of consistency in the past.
- Remedy - this is a 2 part answer:
1. The first part is to plan by setting goals. Good goals, that will stretch you and help 
you to reach your dreams and beyond.
2. Second, write out what you need to do every day to accomplish your goals. I am a list maker by nature. List making helps me buy what I need and not forget things. I have used list making to make sure I pack and take what I need for trips (though I did leave a whole set of clothes on the back of the door one time when leaving on a trip, but that’s another post, another day). But using a list for daily tasks was not something I used. In Oola, we encourage our clients to use an index card, divided in half with a line from top to bottom. On the left side is listed skittles (tasks that aren’t tied to our goals) and on the right is listed oranges (those tasks that need to be done to move us further towards our goals). Whether you choose to do the Oola method, using a notepad or a task list in your phone, do it, make sure you list out and do your priorities first. Those things that will help you reach your goals.


You will be consistent in your life and business when you Implement the above tips… (1)a consistent bedtime and rise time, (2)doing one thing until completed before moving on to the next, and (3)planning through setting goals and using a tool to help you set daily tasks to move you towards those goals. These have helped me accomplish so much with consistency and they will help you too!


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Fill Your Cup First

Fill Your Cup First

When you walk in your purpose, you need to be healthy and whole in mind and spirit. You cannot do this if you do not take care of yourself.


As women we tend to put everyone’s need before our own. This idea is one thing I have never been guilty of, but I have felt the guilt for not doing that. Seeing where others are always putting themselves last, can make you feel shame if that is not the way you do things.


Here we see two sides of something we need to deal with and do away with. First, I want to look at how putting others health and well being can be detrimental to your own health and wellbeing.  If you have flown you have heard the flight attendant tell you in case of emergency when the oxygen masks drop down, you need to put yours on first before helping anyone else, including children. Why is this? Simple, if you lose contentiousness due to lack of oxygen, how can you help anyone? You may both perish. Now let’s apply that to our lives. How can we help when we are in desperate need of help ourselves? 


When we pour out, we must be full first. Pouring from a half full or worse almost empty cup will not provide refreshment to anyone. This may cause them to be left wanting and thirstier than prior to your pouring. 


For me filling my cup is my morning routine. And I don’t mean routine in the since that I do it out of obligation or in a robotic manner. I mean in a since of habit, but that habit has me wanting to dig in every morning and see what the Lord is going to pour into me. Jesus got alone with the Father prior to pouring out on others. Shouldn’t we also? 


We should also take time to pour into ourselves from books and training that will feed us from a personal development standpoint. This is something I started about 15 years ago. During this time, I have read countless books, listened to wonderful speakers all of which have poured into me, which allows me in turn to pour back out into you.


At the end of a busy day, we need to time to refresh ourselves. Time with your loved ones will be so much better if you are coming away from a time of filling your cup back up after a busy day. Your mind will be clear, your heart open and then you will be able to pour your heart into them.


The other side of this is feeling guilt because you do take care of yourself first. Please let that go. Read all the reasons above again as why that is exactly why you should be doing that. I think it is so unfortunate when we let the way we see others doing things convict us of the way we do things. 


You be you. You were uniquely made to walk in your purpose your way. Look to God for guidance. He will use His words and others in your life to guide and confirm.


Pour into yourself first, without guilt or shame, so you will be full and overflowing to pour into those you love and those you serve.

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